Hi Beautiful People!
Remember back in October when I talked about having an adventure of the week? It was mad fun, and I loved every moment of the pursuit. I don’t know why I let Adventure of the Week die, but I’m bringing it back with the new year!
For those of you who are new around this neck of the woods, Adventure of the Week is a personal challenge where you make the choice to do something big and scary (to you) before the end of the week for the purpose of deliberately chipping away at your comfort zone and ensuring constant positive growth.
One of the things on my life list is to randomly tell an attractive stranger that I find them attractive. In a non-creepy way of course. We constantly compliment each other’s shoes, purses, scarves, etc. but it’s much more infrequently that we (or at least, I) call out attractive faces as I see them. Why? Why this focus on the objects adorning the person, to the exclusion on the person adorning the objects? This is nonsense. One of the tenets of service is acknowledging the beauty of others. My adventure this week is to not only do this, but to also actively seek out the people that I find both physically attractive, and am emotionally drawn to. In other words, ask someone out on a date, just to hang out.
It occurred to me recently that I’ve never asked someone out on a date. Never. Ever, ever, ever. Not because I’m nervous about it, I think dating is fun. I’ve just never approach someone with a deliberate, goal-in-mind, romantic attitude. Why? I couldn’t tell you. Perhaps I’ve been more self-involved over the years than I originally thought?
Right now, I’m nervous and expecting to get rejected. That’s ok though. The point isn’t to end up with a date, the point is to put in a good faith effort into trying. Whether I fail or succeed at this task is irrelevant. t’s what I do with the outcome is what really matters. Love is everywhere. In fact, life itself is one infinite, uninterrupted act of love. Chew over that notion for a while! For a long time, I thought that I would find love if I looked hard enough for it, as though it was something I misplaced a while ago, along with childhood innocence and my favourite blue cocktail ring.
So, I turned to my heart for answers. Your heart is where your true answers lie. We’re all born knowing what we want you see, but somewhere between learning how to speak the language everyone else speaks, and live in the world everyone else lives in, we develop a tendency towards what everyone else is doing, whether or not it points towards our True North. What I discovered within myself was that I didn’t have to go out to find love. I simply had to remember what was already there in my heart. And voila- single status sadness evaporated!
The motivation behind this week’s adventure is to exercise this newfangled inner love on the world around me. (Which truthfully is neither new, nor fangled, as it’s been within me since the dawn of the ages. It’s been me since the dawn of the ages. I am love. You are love. Yo’ momma is love! Errbody be love, as Chingy would say.)
One of my favourite strategies for manifesting my desires is making vision boards. Using my new favourite interweb tool, Pinterest, I made myself a vision board of what the fairy tale in my heart looks like.
Common themes I found in my vision of love as it exists within my heart:
kisses, business casual clothing, soft lighting, intimate moments, plush bedding, rainbows, dark haired/light eyed men, girls with unnatural hair colours and crooked smiles, ponies in enchanted forests looking very valiant steed-like, androgynous people in pinstripe suits, fluffy dresses, rainy days, rainbows and more kisses. Right now, you can only link to your board, as opposed to show it off. NDB, here’s the permalink.
[Side note: I would encourage you to request a Pinterest code if you've been wanting to get into making vision boards, but feel a bit daunted by all that cutting and pasting, like I did. Doing it digitally makes compiling your vision so much more straightforward, and you can spend more creative energy manifesting, instead of worrying that you're making your vision board correctly. It took about a while for me to get my activation code. In the end, I got so impatient with waiting that I finally ping'd them on Twitter and grovelled for an account. It was well worth the wait. I made 8 boards within 3 days, all of which are filling up fast. I love figuring out what the details of my fabulous life look like outside my head. Pinterest gets the Official Daring Club Stamp of Approval for making visualisation and goal realisation a million times faster and significantly more interactive!]
So there you have it, the Who, What, When, Where, How and Why of my personal adventure this week. By no means do you have to embark on the same adventure I do. I would however encourage you to go on some sort of adventure. Maybe this week you’ll learn a new recipe, or go to a new museum, or go on an epic quest to get to another city to meet your favourite writer (oh wait, that was me!), or something even better!
Give it a roll over in your mind, and if pushing out your comfort zone over the next 7 days seems appealing to you, holla at your girl and the rest of the community! What adventure do you want to go on, and what’s pulling you in that direction? But most critically, what kinds of strategies are you thinking of using to get you to your goal?
Much love from within,
P.S. Image credit: home & heart, via flickr