Archive for January, 2011

Weekly Adventure: Decluttering Edition

Hola Beautiful People!

Last week’s sleepy adventure was a dream come true. All puns intended. Each and every single night,  I treated myself to the 8 hours I so desperately crave all the time. The best nights were the ones where I didn’t get to bed till around midnight, and then I guiltlessly let myself sleep till 10am the next morning. I’d take  oversleeping instead of undersleeping any day!

I  originally set off on a sleeping adventure because of struggles I’ve been having for the past 8 months with calming my mind down each night to let sleep happen. But  you know what? I’ve been so busy, all day, every day, that I’d collapse into bed exhausted each night. But you know what else? Waking up rested every morning to the sight of the pig sty that is my bedroom really harshed my mellow!

I’ve been thinking for a while about  the sheer volume of stuff I have in my life, and the  more I think about it, the more it stresses me out. Don’t get me wrong, my stuff is cool. My stuff is meaningful  and beautiful  and it makes me smile. Still though, all of it at the end of the day is still stuff. I’ve proven over and over again to myself that I will continually accumulate stuff. It is in my best interest to begin to edit down my collection of stuff so I’m not  faced with piles of stressful crap to deal with everyday.

So my personal adventure for next week: get rid of 3 things a  day. I would get rid of just one thing a day, but GO BIG OR GO HOME! I  have  this vision of a home  filled with a  carefully curated collection of  treasures. My current collection of stuff I’m afraid to let go of looks  nothing like that vision. If last week’s  adventure taught me anything, I function best when I’m not tripping over things at 6am. I don’t know if I’ll ever be one of those smug zen people who develop ironic obsessions with not having stuff as  a way to stop obsessing over having stuff. That would be a  rather hilarious turn of events, wouldn’t it? At the very least though, I do know that I want to be able  to find the things I want, when I want them, instead of rifling through bags and boxes to track things down.

My  plan is that if I have an item I’m particularly reluctant to let go of, I’m going to take a picture of it  so that I at least still have the memory,  because ultimately, that’s what I’m trying to preserve by  keeping crap. The memories that went with them  are what I cherish the most.

So tell me, do you have an issue with keeping stuff too? And if not, why? And don’t tell me you just don’t care about things, because I know you have some things that are meaningful to you. The question is, how do you discriminate those from all the rest?

Om shanti zen,

A.Y. Daring

Art in Action: Materialscape

Michelle Allard stands behind her then in-progress sculpture

Michelle Allard sculpts what diamonds would be if they weren’t made out of diamonds. (Or, err, carbon? What are diamonds made of these days?) All the design principles are there- the multi-faceted surfaces, the intricacy of the details, the simplicity of the raw materials and the intensely focused energy over a long period of time on a single item of creation. The only difference is that instead of carbon she uses thousands of pieces of office paper. And instead of millions of years of heat and pressure, her latest art exhibition Materialscape, took two weeks, 20 volunteers, and 30,000 pieces of office paper turned into 30,000 paper tubes. In the same way that the different sides of a polished diamond reflect the different ways you can look at it’s beauty, so too do her art installations make you rethink your home printer. Except without the generic copywriting-esque connotations that last description just gave.

When the Kitchener-Waterloo Art Gallery invited me to come chat with Michelle and help her roll paper into tubes, I was excited. Then, I got nervous. It’s always struck me as intrusive to watch an artist working. The process of creation is deeply sacred! It’s something along the lines of how raw and visceral it is to distil yourself and your impulses into some form outside of your physical being. It’s not just the final piece that you’re putting out there for the world to see, it’s a part of your being that you’re presenting to others.

I shouldn’t have been so worried. Michelle was as gracious as gracious can be, and has sparked a serious interest within me for getting to know more professional fine artists.

The tubes are analogs. They’re individuals within the society, and they come together to form things. What kinds of things? I asked Michelle this, and I got the response I was expecting: “Well it’s abstract art, so it becomes whatever the audience wants it to be.”

I see a city skyline at first glance, and it’s the notion that I hold on to. I was born in a big, coastal city and whenever I’m not in that kind of setting, my heart feels geographically awry. I look at all the paper tubes, close my eyes and imagine the smell of salty ocean air and long to be in Toronto, because that’s as close as I can get to the environment I crave without hopping onto a plane. Her art makes me homesick in a big way.

In her day job, Michelle Allard works as a landscape architect. The influences are obvious in her work. It’s easy to see rolling mountain ranges, or hills, or even a choppy sea in the sculptures she assembles. We talk about lots of things while I contort myself into weird angles to see the paper tubes come together in different ways. We talk about whether or not she believes in originality (always and interesting question to ask an artist) and she responds with something beautiful about modernism and post-modernism and the avant garde. She talks about what she really hopes her audience will get from the work and what she hopes to do next and the whole time my mind and eyes dip in and out of the folds and sharp edges and soft transitions in the landscape. Some of the paper tubes have a slight pink cast under the lighting. They’re not actually pink- those tubes are just a different kind of paper than the others. They’re my favourite parts.

Materialscape in progress.

Apparently, spiders and other small bugs love to use her sculptures as temporary homes, which we both think is awesome. “They’re like little apartment buildings for them!” she says. (Isn’t that amazing, the way we provide safe spaces for others when we allow our creative impulses to break free?) For her, part of the drive and purpose behind her work is in making beauty out of banalities. You interact with paper several times a day, but how often do you stop to think about what more it could become?

How often do you stop to think about the fact that the paper originally came from trees, and now you’re using it in your temperature controlled, insulated buildings, protecting you from the very nature from whence it/you came? That last observation was my own, not the artist’s by the way. That’s what comes to mind though, when you walk around Materialscape. Here we are in the stark cement cube that is the Gallery’s designated space for the sculpture, looking at a brightly coloured by-product of the nature we diligently keep away from ourselves.

It’s all very interesting and there’s so much to consider when you experience the sculpture that it’s easy to forget that it’s just pieces of paper and cardboard boxes. Or perhaps they aren’t just pieces of paper and cardboard tubes? Afterall, the only difference between your mind and Michelle Allard’s is how you look at and think about the objects you interact with on the daily…

Materialscape is on display at the Kitchener-Waterloo Art Gallery from now until March 20th. Entrance to the gallery is always free too(!!) but I’ll rave about the importance of accessibility to art at a later date.

It breaks my heart that after the exhibition is over, they’re going to crush it all and recycle it. Dear KW|AG, I will gladly take parts of Materialscape home with me on March 21st if you’ll let me. I’ll mount them on my bedroom walls, and it will be fab.

Click here to find out more about the exhibition. Michelle also blogged about the process of creating Materialscape here, which is also where the pictures come from. If you like big words and abstract concepts even pretentious people have to read twice, her profile on Re-Title is here. And an incredible, well written interview with her was done in the Waterloo Chronicle.

Make art not war,

A.Y. Daring

Link Love! January 28, 2011

via Sherlocks

Hola Beautiful People!

My weekly salute to things that edumacate and entertain. Enjoyizzle!

Do you know the difference between a strategy and a tactic? No, really, do you? Because learning the meaning of those two words has actually helped me rethink how I’m going about achieving my goals, and I’m really excited about it! Thanks BrandInsightBlog!

I just discovered a small company from Omaha, Nebraska called Princess Laserton. Um, hello coolest company name ever! Princesslasertron.com Her webdesign is also smashing. It’s feminine and whimsy, without being cheesy or playing too much into stereotypes about what it means to be girly/a bride. Expertly executed design makes me so happy. I don’t use composition notebooks for anything, but if I did, I would get her “love” notebook cover.

The 6 Keys to Being Awesome at Everything. They should have called it “anything” not everything, but whatevs, the advice is still solid.

I want this Macbook cover in a way even I can’t put into words.

The different types of people there are on the internet. Hahahahaha! Well done.

Alex and his inventor are hotties. I’ll have one in every colour please!

Everybody say “Thank you Tania,” for finding and sharing this video. For years, I’ve been suffering from wind deficiency, stomach punch, swallowed my food after chewing it, and now that I’ve started taking Retaphin, I’ve become 75% more of a pet owner. Thanks Retaphin!

This interview was way back when Diddy was still P.Diddy, circa a long time ago. Diddy is a big role model to me, because of his tenacity and his dogged perseverance and entrepreneurial spirit. At 13 years old, he negotiated a series of deals with paper boys all over Westchester county and was making $600 dollars a week off of selling their routes. Less than a decade later, he was directing artist development at the first record company he ever worked for. Swoon.

This is the best and funniest Disney spoof you’ll ever see. It’s the Mean Girls trailer reenacted by Belle, Jasmine, Snow White, Cinderella and Ariel.

This girl knows where it’s at when it comes to putting haters in their place.

I’m a sucker for a boy who can dance, and this one’s got swagga for days!

Oh hay guess wut! Come back later today for art!

Have a good weekend,

A.Y.

17 Affirmations to Help You Feel Like a Hottie

Every day after I shower, I stand in front of my full length mirror and admire myself. I turn from side to side and check myself out at all angles. I stand really close the the mirror and examine all my features. The stretch marks on my hips and breasts. The mole on my left collar bone. (To you it’s on my right.) I smile and watch my lips thin out and widen. I slap my ass a lot too and jiggle my thighs while I dance, just cause that’s fun. I drag my fingers through my hair and fall in love with my nappy head all over again. Running through my head is a soundtrack of affirmations that I often don’t even realise I’m playing. The soundtrack is on though, and it plays loud and clear, all the time.

I reached my adult height, shoes size and cup size at age 12. You know that famous picture of the 50-foot woman attacking the New York City. In my head, that was me! I used to hate my belly and my boobs and my thighs and my hips and my everything else with a vehement passion. The only thing that’s changed about me physically since age 12 is weight gain. Yet here I stand today in all my short, busty glory and entirely in love with my body. What did change then? My thought’s man!

I was going to share with you my personal affirmations, but you know what? I found a video of a little girl named Jessica who does daily affirmations, and this is essentially what I do every morning. I stand in front of the mirror and just tell myself that I love every part of my body and my life. When I first started doing this, I felt silly, because I didn’t actually believe anything I was saying. But I’ve stuck with my affirmations for so long that it no longer feels silly- they’ve all become my new truths.

Just watch Jessica- she’ll show you how it’s done. I tried to keep track of her affirmations, and I counted about seventeen.

Visual Details #1: This Cake Tastes Like Cardboard

Visual Details is a collection of experiences you take in through the eyes- an indulgent pleasure without the refined sugar. Yum!

Source: Sadly, lost to the ages, but if you know who the original artist was, holla at a girl!

That’s What She Said #4: About Creativity and Gift Giving


Lady Gaga for V magazine


It is your birthright and the necessity of your soul to express itself and to create, just like it too was created. And in the same token, your talents, those gifts with which you came into the world holding snugly in your arms, are exalted when they too are given. So share you work. Share you art. Share your words. Give hugs. Smile when other people see you. You’re on the right track when your creativity is seeing the light of day.

Om shanti shanti, and inner peace,

A.Y. Daring

That’s What She Said is a semi-regular series where I share with all you Beautiful People the things I recently wrote in my personal journal. It’s semi-regular, because I don’t always feel ready to share right after writing, and that’s ok. TWSH #4 comes from my writing on Sunday, January 24, 2011.

Weekly Adventure: 2011 Week 4, Sleepy Edition

How did you do with your adventure last week! Mine didn’t turn out anything the way I planned. I originally thought I wanted to ask someone to hangout on a date-type thingy. Instead, I found two tomatoes and an epiphany. You read that right. But first, my adventure this week: Sleep! Eight hours a night, every night.

Image Credit: Ditte Isager

I struggle with quieting my mind enough to let rest happen what I want it to. Normally, I write and write till I’m too tired to write anymore, then collapse into my pillows and sleep till my alarm clock goes off the next morning. I want to begin to change that pattern. I want to replace it with the creation of a loving and safe space under my comforter where I can easily get all the sleep I need each night and face the next day energized and refreshed. Last week’s adventure taught me that I am at my best when I nourish myself with not just good company and bright thoughts, but also fresh food and deep sleep!

How?

I’m thinking something along the lines of cleaning my room each night, guided mediations and herbal tea. We’ll see though.

So, the story of last week’s adventures, involving tomatoes and epiphanies!

On Sunday, after the Chris Guillebeau book signing in Toronto, I got a sudden and overwhelming urge for raw tomatoes during the car ride home. It was absurd, especially since I don’t actually like raw tomatoes. But sometimes, the things we need to do in order to succeed come to us in strange and difficult-to-ignore impulses from the universe, and I knew that if I did indeed randomly find tomatoes that week, it would be a sign that my heart was in the right place and that the things my head dreams about are the same things my heart needs.

I did indeed find my raw tomatoes, but not in anyplace I looked for them. My roommates when on a collective massive grocery shopping trip. Did they buy tomatoes? Nope. I thought I saw one, but it was just a fat, round apple. On Wednesday night, I went to the grocery store to see if tomatoes were on sale. As it turned out, I got there 5 minutes before closing time, and in my frantic search for my precious tomatoes, I didn’t find any. I resigned myself to a sense of clam and decided that the tomatoes would arrive when they were ready. And boy did they ever!

I took a bus on Friday to go see my mother. It dropped me off at a terminal that’s just a 10 minute walk to her house, but Friday greeted us with minus 30 degree Celsius weather. My mom offered to take time off work to come get me, but something told me to decline and tough out the walk. With two, 20Lb bags…

And did I mention the dangerously cold weather?

Like I said, the universe works in strange and mysterious ways. I walked.

In order to brace myself against the wind, I retreated into a state of clam, and decided to focus on keeping warm instead of how painful the wind chill was. I adjusted my hood to better stave off the wind and as I did so, something red caught my eye. It was two red things actually. In the front lawn of the house 6 doors down from my mother, they had built an enormous snowman. Guess what they used for the eyes. Did you guess two fresh tomatoes? Because if you did, you would have correctly guessed why I had such a wonderful weekend!

So my lesson from last week was clear, simple and delicious, like a ripe tomatoe: focus on making sure you have what you need, and everything else will come to you as it’s ready to. I don’t think the lesson is to stop looking for whatever it is you want. Has anyone ever told you that you would find love as soon as you stopped looking for it? I think they’re on the right track, but not quite accurate in their assessment. You’ll find love not when you stop deliberately looking, but begin deliberately trusting that you’ll find it.

Every time I went searching for my tomatoe, it was because I didn’t really believe or trust that I’d be awake enough to find it, or the universe was clever enough to make sure I would receive it. Neither of those things are true- you are aware enough for your desires, and the universe is plenty aware of where you are and what you need. It’s when you let go of the idea that you might not find it, that you find it. That’s because the space that was formerly cluttered by self doubt and worry is now free to be filled with love and trust and total faith that you’re just freakin awesome, and a tidal wave of wonderful is rushing towards you to bring smiles you face. Nice.

Happy manifesting,

A.Y. Daring

Things I Love Thursday- January 20, 2011

This week, I found the reading room for my major’s undergrad program. The interesting thing about the University of Waterloo’s philosophy program is that, including students who are taking philosophy as a minor, and those who are double majors, there are only about 36 of us. Everybody knows everybody else, and everyone’s really involved in our faculty events.

It’s cool to have a community where I can crack jokes using Plato and Jason Derulo in the same line, and people actually laugh! Our reading room is a giant room filled from ceiling to floor with ancient books and hardbound copies of the masters and doctorate theses of faculty over the years. I’ve gone there every day for the past little while, and working while surrounded by the thoughts of the great philosophers who came before me makes me feel like a part of something bigger and more important than myself. I’m not just dissecting theories about ethics for the fun of it- this body of work actually contributes to humanity’s overall understanding of itself. The feeling in my belly of having found where my mind belongs.

I’m so, so grateful for all of the above. I keep saying it over and over again, but I think I’ve hit a real sweet spot in my academics right hurr!

Other things that are rocking my world this week: more or less keeping up with my readings, Twitter, choosing to net get stressed and instead talk about my feelings with compassionate people. Dreaming about what I’ll do next with my nails. Falling alseep exhausted but satisfied. Spending time with ma mama. But most of all this week, I’m loving myself.  And as always, YOU! Mmmhmmmm!

4 Questions To Ask Before Bed Tonight. (You might even find inner peace.)

Photo: Vogue Korea, "Sudden Sleep"

Hi Beautiful People!

I have this little exercise I’ve ben doing for a few months in my Moleskine every night before bed. It consists of four questions that I ask myself and answer and it’s completely changed my work flow and productivity. Obvi, I can’t keep them to myself now! They are:

1) What did I want to get done today?

2) What did I actually get done today? (Regardless of whether or not it appeared on my original to-do list.)

3) How many of the things that I did today matched with what I wanted to get done?

4) What am I going to do differently tomorrow to improve upon my results?

It takes about 20 minutes to do, so it’s a time and energy commitment that I’ve found easy to stick with over the past few months. Sometimes I begin my day with a to-do list that is a poor reflection of the important tasks in my life, which is what happens on days that end up being productive, but with little crossed off my list. Sometimes I begin my day with a to-do list that is an excellent reflection of what needs to happen to make my success happen. At the end of those days, I can relax knowing that there are fewer niggly bits and loose ends in my life. This most often happens when I go back and actively change my behaviour based on what I learned the day before, taking big goals and breaking them down into little pieces. It’s a well know principle, and answering these four questions is one of the easiest ways I’ve found to actually practise said principle and then turn daily improvements into a habit. I can’t always make the logical leap in behaviour from where I am to where I want to be, but I find self-correcting to be quite an easy task to do. I like the idea of looking at a daunting goal, and then just deciding to take it one day at a time, and fiddle with your tactics as you go along. It’s fake it till you make it, but with a little more savvy.

I like to write out the answers in black ink, as I normally journal in purple. That way at the end of the month when I go back and review my progress on my long-term goals, I can easily see all my daily reviews and measure my progress. This is just my method though. If you don’t normally journal (although I honestly think taking it up will change your perspective in life!) a word document does the same job. The important point is to regularly review your daily progress to make sure that even in your imperfect, topsy turvy life full of all things unexpected and wonderfully surprising, there is a steady upward trend in your achievement.

You know what else this daily practise has done for me though? Upped my inner peace. Sometimes I look at a to-do list that had less than 25% of the original intentions completed, and in the past, I’d chalk the day up as a loss and then go to bed having learned nothing in the process. When I started to look more closely at myself however, I often found that while going about my day, some things took much longer than expected, other things turned out to need more time/information to complete, and yet others I simply did not have the energy for. Taking the time to look into why things turned out the way they did made me realise that often, when I don’t accomplish our goals, it’s not that I “failed,” but that the goal itself wasn’t in line with what I wanted and could do that day.

And then other times when I go to bed with neither a completed to-do list, nor anything meaningful done in general, it’s because “Recommended for You” on YouTube found some really great recommendations that day. That’s cool too though. So long as you enjoy every single moment of it, did you really have a bad day?

Thinking of you,

A.Y. Daring

Chris Guillebeau, The Unconventional Book Tour and Super Fantastic Cupcakes

Chris Guillebeau, your darling A.Y. Daring and my good friend Brittney who's also an avid reader of the AONC blog

When I was 17 years old I used to sign things off as “The Empress”. I’m not even kidding. I had a passion for writing, media and self-improvement so I decided I was going to be my generation’s Oprah. I would begin by writing and then progress to running a multi-billion dollar lifestyle media company by age 30.

How does Chris Guillebeau come into the picture? Well, he’s been talking about how to take over the world from the beginning of his blog, Art of Non-Conformity and detailed how one can do so in his wildly popular manifesto, which has now been expanded into his first book. But while his advice was highly practical (and still is), I was only a teenager back then and didn’t think anyone would take me seriously if I started giving lifestlye advice. I mean, I knew I like hearing messages of positivity and female empowerment, but no one would want to hear me talk about those things, right?

So I e-mailed him to ask for a second opinion.

He wrote back.

It wasn’t a particularly long e-mail, just 2 sentences, and he told me this: “Don’t worry about being too young to follow your dreams. If you keep working hard at your vision, by the time you get to be my age, you’ll be twice as successful as me.

First, he was about 30 at the time, and I wanted to be wildly successful by age 30, so it was nice to have my projected timeline validated.

You know what was funny about his e-mail though? He was one of  the first people in my life to ever tell me that I didn’t have to wait to go about manifesting my dreams! Everybody- my parents, teachers, friends, relatives- thought that I should take it slow and laze about my youth. The thing was though, I’m pretty sure I was born fully aware of my mission in this world.  Holding back my message was keeping me up at night, writing articles and manifestos about ideas that I thought would have to fester for ages before seeing the light of day. What I wanted was to remind women of their inalienable right to love themselves in their natural state and help enable them to live incredible lives! I had all these ideas and thoughts of how I could go about it, but not once did it occur to me that I didn’t have to wait for a degree, industry experience, permission and start-up capital to do so!

“Don’t worry about being too young to follow your dreams,” I’d say over and over again in my head.

I printed off the e-mail and stuck it on my vision board, where I could look at it every single time I got discouraged. Chris Guillebeau is hardly the only figure who’s influence me over the years, but he was certainly the first who made the concept of large-scale success on your own terms seem within reach. I love Oprah, and I will always see her asa mother figure, but let’s face it- how accessible does her life really seem?

The aftermath of the story is that two years after that e-mail and a variety of other perspective-changing events, I’m writing a blog all about the message I wanted to get out there, am getting interviewed by national news shows about the things I’m fighting for and I work really hard every single day at what I feel most passionate about. Like, OMGHHKP! You guys, he was right!

So obviously, when I heard he had published his first book The Art of Non-Conformity, and his book tour would be bringing him to Toronto (that’s essentially my backyard man!) I had to get myself there.

The benefit of going to his book tour wasn’t really in meeting him, although that was nice too. What was really great about the meetup was that it was filled entirely with other people who wanted to lead remarkable lives, and the stories of those who had done so. Most of all though, all their stories were relatable. I met a woman who had started a company to help people eat more fruits and vegetables, and she gave me the e-mail address of a mentor of hers who is doing something very similar to what I want to do. I tripped over the dividor rope at the stage area, and I met a girl with the most positive attitude ever who rushed over to help me. Someone else brought cupcakes that said “No really, u rock!” They were delicious. If you were the one who brought them, you need to know that your baking is amaing. Please keep being awesome and feeding people like me :)

They were amazing. I wish I knew who brought them.

Also, look what what myself and the wonderful woman beside me got to do during the opening talk!

Hi @nataliecurrie!

We coloured in Ontario on his map! I had no idea how big my province was until this past Sunday. We went with a heart, because that’s what Quebec did, and it’s not often the rest of Canada shows Quebec some cultural love!

I don't know what I was saying at this moment, but I was really excited so I was probably talking too much.

Meeting Chris Guillebeau in person was a bit weird. I don’t really know what I was expecting him to be like, but I was taken aback by how…well…normal he is. Hear me out here.

This man has made a living telling people to shun the status quo, and not do anything just because you’re told to do so. Yet he looked like the sweetest, most regular guy I’ve ever met. I can’t imagine him rocking a boat or conquering a small nation or even being particularly forceful. It would appear that he got to where he was by being really nice, patient and getting really good at something he liked to do that other people benefited from. His actual story and personality is much less drama-free than his “world domination/challenging authority since 1978″ message. I like it.

Usually, successful people at the top of their games are larger than life extroverts. I know saying “introverts can be successful too!” is a silly thing to say, but the world doesn’t seem to say it very often, save for a few brilliant but suicidal poets and highly intelligent, but socially awkward computer programmers. CG is cool, graceful, rocking his game and does so while openly admitting to being an introvert and caring a little too much about what people think about him. How so very normal a person living such an extraordinary life! Passion + discipline = success. That’s it. No drama, no frills, not even any glitter! I can’t imagine a life without glitter (obviously, my first book will be brightly coloured and have a holographic cover) but it takes all kinds, and I love that.

Oh yeah, the book!

What? I pose like this in bookstores all the time!

I haven’t actually read it yet.

It feels strangely sacred, after enduring frostbite in my toes and burnt socks to get to Toronto (don’t ask). I will start reading it tonight though. I’ve flipped through it, and it seems like an extension of everything he’s been saying for years, expanded and put together in physical form. It’s written in the same voice as his blog posts, so I think it should be an easy but entertaining and highly useful book.

May the blessings be,

A.Y. Daring